Making Amends
It never fails...during the month of Ramadan, I always have this pressing desire to make amends with anyone I cut off, for good reason of course. The spirit of Ramadan makes me focus more on the good times I had with folks and not focus so much on any bad experiences. So, here I am again pulling out the list of people (Alhamdullah, a very short list) who I just backed away from for a while. Although I have this great spirit whirling around me, I have to admit that I can't help but wonder if it's worth it. Sometimes, you cut people out of your life for good reason and things are great from then on. Sometimes, you cut people out of your life for what you think is good reason, but you can't seem to get them out of your mind because deep down, you truly valued their friendship. The problem is, when making amends, I never know which one is true for that person. Are they good for me? Am I good for them? Is it better just to leave things as they are? Or should I reach out and put the past behind me and hope that they do the same?I think the problem for me is this: I TRULY value friendship and I try hard to be a great friend. Now, only others can say whether or not all my efforts are successful. It's just really, really, REALLY, R-E-A-L-L-Y hard for me to bounce back from someone intentionally throwing hardship or harm my way especially when I try hard not to intentionally hurt others. I like to think I am truly there for my friends, no matter what. I mean, I may be there with loads of sarcasm and bags of blunt honesty, but that's just me. I guess what I'm asking my readers is this:
How do you know when to make amends and if it's truly worth it? How do you TRULY let go of ill feelings and not try to suppress them in an effort to be "ok"?
I just believe that in these second 10 days of Ramadan, those days in which Allah's (swt) forgiveness is upon us, that we should in turn be forgiving towards our fellow brothers and sisters. I just want to be able to really forgive...not say and act like I forgive and then hear the person's name or see their face and internally pop a quick attitude...just truly forgive.
posted by Madeehah @ 4:18 PM
1 Comments:
Just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you have to allow them back in your life. You can forgive someone and still move on with your life without them in it.
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